How do we see things?

“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
Anais Nin

I was at Keeneland, our beautiful thoroughbred racetrack in Kentucky, recently with friends.  We noticed this young couple acting extremely amorous with each other.  They were kissing, and the guy was getting really carried away with the young woman’s backside if you know what I mean!  One of us made the comment that we didn’t even think these two people knew each other.  We all agreed.  We laughed, rolled our eyes and really thought it was pretty disgusting.   Then the young couple turns to us and said with smiles,

“We are married.”  I immediately noticed her wedding ring.  Immediately, our thoughts went from disgust… to one of us saying, “How sweet, they are so in love!

We may tend to jump to conclusions, judgments and our own perceptions so easily.  How many times do we do this in our own relationships with spouses, family and friends?  We look at things with our own perspectives based on our past experiences, fears, etc. which can lead us to many difficulties and painful experiences.   Our own emotions can cause us to be reactive to events and situations. How would it be if we learned to look at things in a more compassionate, non-judgmental way.

What if… our relationships with our children, spouses, siblings, friends and acquaintances would improve with just a change in our way of thinking?

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
Wayne Dyer

Cheers to You!

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