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If I Only Knew Then What I Know Now

I recently received an email from a client regarding her teenage daughter who was going through a breakup with her boyfriend.  After her daughter had been really upset for a day, my client reported back that her daughter had gained some real perspective and how she wished she had been as mature at that age.

I immediately emailed back and said it is amazing how much farther along our daughters are than we were. My daughters’ often amaze me with the wisdom and perspective that they have.  I didn’t have a clue back then – I really wasn’t awake to my own perspectives.  How often have we all said, “if only I knew then what I know now!”  So I would like to share a few of the things I know now:

  • For many years I blamed others for my problems because honestly, I didn’t know any better. And sometimes I think that is the easy path, yet now I know it leads to nowhere. I’ve learned to take total responsibility for my life.  I am responsible for my own choices and decisions, my own way of looking at things.  This way I have my own power and am not so swayed by others.
  • I’ve learned the real power of thought.  It is like a gift of a creative paintbrush of our mind, and we can paint our own reality both good and bad.  And yet, we are human beings and will always have ups and downs, and these ups and downs always begin with thought. It is up to us how much energy we give our negative thoughts. I know that our negative insecure thoughts keep us away from who we really are.  Knowing the incredible power of thought has been a game changer for me both personally and professionally.
  • I’ve learned that I can’t change anyone.  It is not my job to fix or change anyone for no one needs fixing. People only change by becoming more of themselves and less of their conditioning.  The more I offer understanding and goodwill, the more secure others feel and that allows them to reveal their true side.  The more frustration and negative feelings I have towards others, the more they resort to defensiveness and staying stuck in their own bad habits and negative ego structure.  By allowing people to feel secure and connected, I have realized they are given an opportunity to relax into who they really are and let go of their protective coat of armor.

There is so much more that I do now know. The fun and exciting part is that there are so many more insights and lessons that I am yet to learn!

What lessons have you learned along the way?  Email me for I would love to hear them.

Cheers to you and love,

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